Divorce.
One of the potentially nastiest words in the english language, pulling along with it thoughts of contention, failure, stress and a multitude of other emotions. Toss in the factor of children and you find yourself in a no mans land of lawyers, courts and endless frustration.
Litigation is tough enough, but to go through it faced off against someone you once cared for deeply is exhausting and painful beyond belief. All your secrets you once shared with your significant other is trotted out and used as ammunition against you, and judged upon by a roomful of strangers.
I've discovered that divorce isn't the end of the journey, it's the beginning. Pieces of paper are great, but the endless phone calls, tirades over having to pay child support, and all out bullying by my ex husbands lawyer never stop. I can't fault his lawyer, he's being paid to push me to the wall, by my ex husband who is working overtime to force me into agreeing that no child support should be paid.
The situation arising is purely a question of math. To my ex-husbands mind, since we share equal custody of both children, he has them 1/2 the time, he shouldn't have to pay child support. He owns his own fairly successful business, myself, since the economic downturn have been unemployed, and be unable to find a job in my field, which is IT.
Of course according to my lawyer, it's not a question of time with each parent, it's a question of which parent has the higher income. Which is how a judge would look at it. I've been sitting on the paperwork, with a firm suggestion from my lawyer to send the child support payment that exists right now into FMEP.
